Starbucks Nightmare

Today at work, I experienced a major setback. I worked with the manager there for a whole day for the first time. Her name is Janelle.She’s black and she has a weird sense of humor. She uses a lot of sarcasm and ‘pretends’ to be mean as a joke.I didn’t let it get to me before, because I knew she was like that from the first time I met her.Until today.  So I went to work with a smile on my face as usual.First I noticed there was a can of whipped cream that was empty. And we need to completely empty it out before taking it to the back sink.At the tucker store, we just emptied it in the sink or in the trash, it didn’t matter. But I like to empty it in the sink and run it with hot water so the whipped cream doesn’t melt in the trash and make a mess at the bottom of the trashcan.So as I was emptying it in the nearest sink, Janelle suddenly said “What are you doing? Stop. Stop. What are you doing?” in a hard tone.And I turned around and said “Emptying the whipped cream.”She could’ve told me that at the discover mill store, they have specific rules about emptying whipped cream, but she just yelled at me, “No. No katie. don’t empty it in the sink, it messes up the drains. empty it in the trash.”And I get it. different store, different rules. I knew that and I go to work everyday knowing that there are many different rules, and I am ready to adapt to them. But the adapting process would run a lot more easily if she didn’t yell at me but just calmly told me that there’s a different way to do it. So you can imagine my surprise at her rudeness. First I just decided to let bygones be bygones. When making a white mocha, I learned from the beginning of my training days and from all the shifts in Tucker that i should stir it with the stir stick so the thick sauce would melt into the espresso and taste better. So as I’ve learned and as I’ve always done, I stirred all thick sauce drinks with the stir sticks. But then suddenly, Janelle came up behind me and took the stir sticks away with a face that said “omg this girl is stupid” and said “I don’t get it. Why do you keep stirring the drinks with the sticks? These arn’t here for you to use them. Look, you’re wasting away those sticks. Do you know how many trees it take to make a box of stir sticks?”I was a little bit annoyed, but calmly explained that this method was how I was taught and how I’ve always done it.And instead of understanding that the Tucker store may have been different and politely asking me to stop using the stir sticks, she replied back in a harsh tone, “You’ve been taught wrong.” I was shocked. How can she say that to me? She was basically saying that Sebla, Greta, and Amicia, all the long time workers that I’ve worked and learned from are not different but wrong. I stopped listening to her after she said that, but she just kept saying something like “Do you get it Katie? do you get it now?” and she added “Am I annoying you yet?” and continued on like the harshness of her tone was a joke. But it didn’t matter if she meant it as a joke, I was offended and I personally don’t think any of her jokes are funny. That made me realize how you said some people are just narrow minded and only what they think is right. So I just thought of her as that kind of person. Someone who is not open minded and just plain stupid or inconsiderate. So again. With a professional attitude, I let it pass me, even though it bothered me how she couldn’t just teach me, but she went straight to scolding. But it didn’t end there. A customer asked her to stir a drink for her, and she took a stirring stick and started to stir the drink but as she stirred she said with a mocking voice “My names Katie and this is how I make drinks.” I just stared at her in shock, because not only did she scold me but now she was making fun of me. And I didn’t laugh or smile even when she looked at me with a smile on her face like “im joking haha” It wasnt funny. There is a line between funny sarcasm and just plain offensive behavior. And THAT’S NOT THE END. When it was my 30min break, I ordered a taco and japanese food, planning to eat half of the japanese food later for dinner. When she saw what I bought she gave me a serious face and was like “You’re eating a taco AND japanese food?” And I decided to smile and get the conversation ending fast and replied politely. But then she asked me “Are you pregnaunt? That’s a lot of food.” I was at the point like “what….. the……. f……..k…..” but AGAIN I just smiled and said “Ya, i’m just really hungry today. I must be tired” no im hungry cause im so angry and so stressed from working with you. but she CONTINUED. “you must be veerrrrrrrry hungry. thats a lot of food.” Why did she have to comment about my food? She didn’t even bother to understand that I was gunna save some for later. When she goes to taco bell during work hour and eat during her work hour I don’t say anything. I don’t ask her what she got or what shes eating, because its none of my business. I had enough of her from that moment, I had no interest what so ever to keep a smile on my face when she talked to me or came near me. Of course I was still polite to the other workers and the customers. But she continued to scold me “No Katie. That’s not how you do it. No Katie you can’t do that. No Katie you were taught wrong.” with simple things as punching in the credit card number or placing the washed dishes on an empty counter. I really wanted to quit. I think I’m someone who can deal with a lot of pressure and a good amount of work. When I work with that unnie every night and do all the labor work while she sits there on her iphone, I just get it done. I do the work. I understand there are different rules, and I’m new and I’m ready to adapt and work harder to prove that they didn’t hire someone who’s unqualified. But today was a day that I was so offended and shocked that I really don’t feel like working there anymore. And I asked for next sunday off so I can go to six flags, but after taking a long long long time to make the schedule, she scheduled me from 5 to 10 on sunday. And she told me to deep clean everything in the store next week. Oh and she scheduled me for 28.5 hours. I can’t do that. I have finals coming up. I have school. SCHOOL > STARBUCKS. Jimin understood. He gave me less hours as I started school, but apparently Janelle thinks starbucks is more important. I thought Jimin was the worst manager ever, but now I’m not sure. I hated working today. I wanted to drop everything, leave, and never come back. I’m afraid I might explode on her one day if this continues. My personality is just like that, if I don’t like you, I’m gunna shut you out and push you away. I’m trying hard to still be friendly to that unnie I always work with who makes me do everything, because that personality is not fit for the business world, but Janelle goes beyond her, she openly offends me and expects me to take it as a joke and laugh about it. What do you think I should do? Because I’m personally so angry with her and the workers there who are so weird and expect me to laugh at everything they say that Im getting tired of them, that I know my thinking won’t be rational.

미워도 사랑하니까 내마지막숨결떼까지 사랑할거니까

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왜 이렇게 대체 내 마음을 몰라주는데
날 아프게 하는데

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꼭 돌아온단 약속만 해줘
미워도 사랑하니까

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너는 내 남자이니까 니가 날 안아줘야 해
아파도 사랑하니까
미워도 사랑하니까 ..

My Dad

i always knew he was unlike any other dad. he’s intelligent, a leader, and a humble man of open-minded thoughts. he’s not one-minded like many asian dads who wants their kids to follow the traditional asian way to successful money. he thinks about more than what he wants. it’s hard to put into words how my dad is. simply put, he’s wise and understanding. qualities many people may claim of their fathers, but it’s a hard quality to come by. thinking indifferently, not like my dad, but of a random ahjussi, i was amazed at what he told me today. he knows what he wants but he also knows what others want. he doesnt lay it on me, but guides me to what he knows i can achieve through methods i can understand in and not get angry. he doesnt think of only him and your mistakes, but he think with a broad-sense. he knows he messes up and he admits it. like i said, it’s hard to say how special i am to have such a wise man as a father, but he understands that there are my culture and his culture and knows exactly how to approach the differences. he told me today, “i know you hate it when i tell you to do something. you shut me out. i realize if i continue to push you, i would be leading you farther away from what you are able to do. so i’m just here, waiting, because i know you’re going to one day wake up and realize what you need to do, how smart and talented you are and succeed beyond my expectations.”

it’s true. everything he said about me was true. im pretty self-centered. if i don’t wanna do it, i don’t. if you keep pushing me to do something that i have little to no interest in, i wont want to do it even more. im immature and stubborn. he told me my problem is that i cant think long term. all my goals and actions are short term. my instant happiness overrides my motivation for future happiness. if i wanna sleep, im not gunna study, im gunna sleep. it’s pretty fail. he said im talented. i have many qualities that will help me succeed in life. i learn fast, and i understand fast. but that’s where it ends. i don’t work to make it better or keep it in my head for a long period of time. so it’s lost over a short period of time. no experience gained. but he said there are moments when i catch on to something. and once i catch on to it, i dont let go and work harder than others and achieve greatness. i was a horrible runner, yet i ran in front of the lacrosse team second year. my first sat score was 1490. my final sat score was 1960. he said if i concentrate on something, i achieve greater than he ever expects of me. but the problem to it is that it’s rare that i ever catch onto something…. so he’s waiting. hoping i will make full use of my talents. listening to him telling me what he thinks of me was an incredible experience. im not sure if i’ll change or if i’ll fail at life, but one thing i know is that my dad is beyond other dads i’ve seen. he’s the one person that i can truely say i respect with all my heart.

he’s not perfect of course. he’s human, and there’s something called emotions. although he may fall off the track sometimes, i know where his heart is and i love him. that’s what he told me as well. and one day i hope i can become as wise and mature as he is. so my children can grow up just as blessed as i am. and i pray to God that i’ll never dissappoint my dad.

WAIT… TIME TO VENT

OMFG I JUST HAD TO WRITE THIS SOMEWHERE CAUSE WOW ITS NOT ME ITS YOU. DEFINITELY YOU.

so i met someone. long distance. very very long distance. started out nice. we first met years ago, but never started talking until this year. it was like last december around my birthday. how nice. and thru talking and texting we became close. very close. but all happy beginning has a 63% chance of rain. he got mad at me a lot. A LOT. some things in the beginning, i admit ya i made a mistake. but then he got mad for small things such as going to do something real quick while chatting on msn. sorry my responses were too slow for u. or going on facebook while talking to u on the phone. its not a crime. is that mean of me? i think im ADD, i like to multitask. its what i get from working at starbucks. im sorry u cant have my attention 100% 24/7. then it got to “why didnt u text/talk to me?” idk? maybe im sick of always being the first one to talk to you. why cant YOOOUU talk to me first? is that a male ego shit or what? and when i say im not the type of girl whos good at making you feel happy and better all the time. face it. not whine about it. im not gunna use cute baby voices and kiss ur ass okay? im just like that. i even told u i was a major tomboy. and there was a time when i thought hey he gets it that im not the girly girl that he expected me to be. goodie! but no. you cant train an old dog new tricks. so i test it out. i dont talk to you for a day or two. and you dont talk to me either. then u tell me that i never talk to u and that ur mad about something? MAD ABOUT WHAT THIS TIME MOTHER FKER?! that was mean.. but im not gunna delete it. and srsly? am i always supposed to start the convo? always supposed to kiss ur booboo when ur mad? guess why ur mad? im sry if im too dense to get it or maybe u just get mad for such little things that normal people brush off so i dont get it! so eventually i let out my frustration. i just let it all out and you just say “okay sorry”. wth is that. what am i gunna do? break it off bitch. cause you suck. and all u have to say to me is “lol arnt we done?” well F U C K Y O U. i was listening to my ipod on shuffle while i was driving and Brian Joo’s “Because We Don’t Love Eachother” came on. story of my life. and reading that rererererereblogged post about what ashton kutcher said made me think that its sooo true. and long distance sucks.

Am i gunna miss him? i hate being hated and hating someone. its too much work. so yes. i will miss you. and i had really fun times with you. ill probably talk to you once i calm down. but ya. for the both of our sakes. we don’t work out well. maybe we’ll be friends, maybe not. maybe youre too immature to get over it. its all up to God now. and sorry God for cursing so much.